It is easy to misundersand the actions or words of somebody simply because we did not see their reasons for doing or saying it. This is true, is it not?
The unfortunate part of life is that we rarely get the chance to explain the reasons why we did or said what we did. And when we do the other person has already judged the situation from their perspective and is not likely to see your side anyway.
I am going through a period of this at the moment. The warnings are there for people to see – MERCURY DIRECT, expect misunderstandings to happen, and that is certainly what I am seeing all around me at the moment. It is as if those who can see the bigger picture in a situation and know the situation is under control are being criticised by those who cannot see past their own consciousness and ego.
On a motorway there is always a danger from vehicles joining the carriageway from slip roads at the side. One way of alleviating the problem is to move into the middle lane to allow vehicles to enter the carriageway and when done safely this is a safe and courteous thing to do. If there is a build up of traffic in the nearside lane then by moving from the centre lane to the next lane along it allows other cars to move into the middle lane and create space for entering vehicles.
But what if that is not necessary? What if the situation is completely under control and there is no need to vacate the middle lane? Common sense says to stay there. The vehicles on the near side have enough space to work in and adjust their speed very slightly to let the other vehicle enter the carriageway and everybody gets along just fine.
Wait a minute. What if the vehicle in the near side lane has completely misread the situation and is now accelerating towards the gap and is now getting closer to the entering vehicle to the point where he now has to hit the brake hard?
How has he misread that situation so badly that he now has to take crazy actions to avoid a crash. Of course his anger is now vented at me for not moving over and allowing him to atone for his lack of awareness when the situation was completely safe until he took the action he did.
I am teaching a pupil who is nervous, to say the least. If a car comes towards us she swerves away from it into the kerb. A simple stop at traffic lights can turn into an emergency stop and then become a panicky nightmare when pulling away. She is a lovely person and aware of this and we are trying to cure it and taking great strides to change the behaviour.
We were doing so well on one lesson that I was taking her on busier roads and letting her feel that she can keep control of a situation and she was responding well, but I was always encouraging her and taking the heat out of situations by keeping her calm and collected.
We had gone through a set of traffic lights and was making steady progress when a situation appeared ahead that needed all my years of experience to help her. We had a car behind us that had been too close to us a couple of times and the driver didn’t seem to be concentrating, and definitely didn’t know the problems I was having keeping my pupil calm. On the narrow kerb approaching us on our side was a chain of schoolchildren being walked by teachers and helpers. Traffic was coming towards us on the other side of the road. I managed to get her to slow down carefully.
Here are the scenarios in my head.
1/ My pupil is likely to panic and that could result in an emergency stop and being hit from behind – chaos!
2/She has a tendency to swerve wildly away from danger, so does she swerve away from the children into the opposite traffic or does she swerve away from the traffic into the school children?
I watched the car behind – too close. I watched the oncoming traffic – it wasn’t slowing. I watched the children – they were on the pavement but it was narrow and one could step off at any time.
As we approached, the leader of the children raised her hand to try and stop the traffic to allow the children to cross. If I was driving I would have stopped but I have 30 years experience of driving and am a professional. My pupil started to panic and was frantically asking “Do I have to stop?” This could go badly wrong and there are children involved.
The children were all well behaved on the pavement and we were too close so I made the decision, “No”. As we passed the leader of the children shrugged her shoulders at me which is understandable but she had no idea of the danger that a sudden stop would have put her children into and I made the decision based on experience and my gut feeling that we were in complete control of a bigger picture and not just the flashpoint of a moment in time.
We discussed the situation a few minutes later when we had stopped and I did tell her that normally we would have stopped and let them across, it would have been the courteous thing to do and we should always try and take care of vulnerable people above ourselves.
But we have to evaluate a situation for it’s full value and sometimes that means that it is not appropriate to do what other people might see as the obvious. I did feel bad because it possibly did look bad to those watching but there was no danger and it was the most sensible decision at the time to avoid any chaos that would have made it dangerous.
It is as if we are invisible to a lot of people at the moment. We see pedestrians look at us then walk in front of us, either completely misjudging us or maybe not even aware that we are there.
I am sensitive to energies and changes and can usually sense when change is in the air but this one has caught me a little by surprise. My consciousness is always focused on the bigger picture which is something I try and encourage my pupils to do. Maybe we are seeing a divide between those who are able to raise their consciousness and those whose consciousness has a limited view at the moment.
I know the energies are encouraging us to change and question ourselves about why we are here and what we can do to bring balance back to the world we live in and the thing that confirmed this was the result of the UK referendum to leave Europe. In the same way that I was seeing people focused on a small part of their lives but affecting the whole by their actions, the UK result showed me that by focusing on each small part of everybody’s conscious level, the whole was affected and the change was facilitated.
What happens next is a mystery but I have definitely been taught a lesson about consciusness and energies.
Whatever the reasons for doing something on a small level it does affect the whole. Let’s hope it brings the changes we are all looking for.